Your child scored highest on our group of emotions we label, Self Worth. Don’t worry, this is a common struggle for many children and there are some really practical ways you can help them grow within these emotions!
First though, to better understand how this works, it is important to note that this grouping is just a label – it is a way to think about the underlying emotions we will explore more in a moment. Self Worth represents the thread that ties all of these specific emotions your child is struggling with together. It is the underlying emotional core of each of these issues, even if the issues themselves are more specific. So don’t worry about the label (and don’t label your child this way). Instead, let's focus on the core issues and practical methods you can implement to help them get through these emotional struggles.
The issues that fall under the Self Worth group are: Self-Worth, Purpose, Authenticity, Gratitude, Integrity. Let's explore them in more detail below.
Delve Deeper into the Emotions
Your kids feel Self-worth when they know they are special and valued just the way they are. It's like having a bright, shining light inside them that makes them feel proud of themselves. Self-worth naturally arises when they believe that they have important ideas, talents, and feelings that deserve to be recognized and respected. It gives them the confidence to express themselves, try new things, and believe in their own abilities.
To help them feel more self worth, offer sincere praise and encouragement for their efforts and achievements, focusing on their strengths and unique qualities. This helps them develop a positive sense of themselves and their abilities. Provide opportunities for independence where they can make choices and accomplish tasks on their own, celebrating their accomplishments to boost their self-confidence. Finally, show unconditional love and support, emphasizing that their worth is not based on external achievements but lies within who they are as a person. Keep an ear open for their judgements of other people and use them to start conversations about worthiness. Everyone is worthy of kindness and love, just because they are alive.
When your kid feels aligned with their purpose it's like they have their own superpower making them a superhero who brings joy, kindness, and love to everyone. When they have purpose, they can do things that make a positive difference and help others. They feel like themselves, and that they matter. They will be focused and directed towards things they create.
To help your kids grow feelings of purpose, give them ways to help others or contribute in meaningful ways. Then celebrate them for their accomplishments and highlight the positive impact they have made. When you encourage them to explore their interests and passions they will naturally feel more purposeful.
Authenticity is the feeling you kids get when being true to themselves. It's like wearing their favorite clothes or playing with their favorite toys because it makes them happy. When they are authentic, they feel comfortable and confident, knowing that they are being genuine and honest. You will see them embracing their unique qualities, expressing their true thoughts and feelings, and being proud of who they are. Authenticity brings a sense of freedom and joy, allowing them to shine brightly in their own special way.
To help your little ones grow authenticity, create an environment that encourages self-expression and individuality. Start playful theater and acting games that encourage them to act out different emotions and put on different masks. “Be a giant.” “Now pretend you are a very small fairy” When they take off the mask, it helps them identify the real, authentic version of themself. You can celebrate their unique qualities and remind them of their worth. As always, lead by example, embracing your own authenticity and showing them the importance of being true to who they are.
Gratitude is like a warm and happy feeling in your kid's heart. It's when they notice and appreciate the good things in their life. They might feel happy they got to play, or rub their belly after a yummy meal. These are all expressions of gratitude. Gratitude makes them feel thankful and brings a sense of joy and contentment. It helps them see the beauty and goodness that surrounds them every day.
To help your young one grow feelings of gratitude, encourage them to say "thank you" and appreciate acts of kindness. Teach them to notice and say out loud the things they are thankful for each day. This is a great practice at the end of the day. It goes deeper if they pause, and put their hands on their heart before they share one thing they are grateful for. You can also share your gratitudes to model and connect to them.
Sometimes your child may feel sad, even if it's not obvious on the outside. Sadness can be caused by various things like loss, illness, or simply feeling a bit down. Kids are sensitive so it may be a reaction to a small thing that you don’t even notice. Your child may be trying to figure out why they aren't as happy as they want to be. Look beyond the obvious clues of sniffles and tears for signs of decreased energy, and a withdrawal from connection.
To help, a massive dose of encouragement is necessary. Celebrate them and their activities. Help them understand that it’s OK to be sad – it doesn’t need to be a dirty feeling. But more than anything, just ask a lot of questions so they start getting the thoughts out of their head and into the world to deal with. This will help them to quiet the noise and see that maybe the sadness they feel is actually something else completely .
It's a wonderful moment when you see your kids feeling Calm. It's like they found a cozy spot or are listening to soft music that makes them feel peaceful and relaxed. When they feel calm, their body feels at ease, their breathing becomes slow and steady, and their thoughts become clear and quiet. Kids love to feel calm and peaceful within themselves and harmony in their environment.
When calm is missing, the brain can actually forget that it's even possible. It’s our job to remind them by calming ourselves and holding our center especially when they can’t. We can literally transmit our feelings of peacefulness to their nervous system through our breath, gentle touch, eye contact, and presence. This can take a few minutes before they regulate again, so be patient. It’s very helpful to encourage and support natural moments of calm when they happen. You can say “Your arms are relaxed. Your eyes are closed. You look calm.” At another time you can ask “What does calm feel like to you? What makes you lose it? I will help you remember when you lose it.”
Integrity is like being a superhero of honesty and doing the right thing even when no one is watching. It's the proud feeling your kids get for being truthful and keeping their promises. They know deep inside that being honest and doing what is right makes them feel good and helps them build trust with others. Integrity is the guiding light that guides them to make choices that they can be proud of.
It really helps to talk about integrity often. “In our home we value integrity. We do what we say and say what we do.” This helps to set clear expectations and teaches them about the importance of honesty, kindness, and keeping promises. It’s important to have consequences for keeping and breaking integrity, but be careful not to create shame. We all get as many do-overs as we need to learn, so we can get back to feeling proud of ourselves when we slip up.
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